Today's suggestion is a great one for anyone who is building a business, a career or a life! How many of us want to know HOW everything is going to transpire. It's almost as if we say, "OK, God, show me how you are going to do this in my life and THEN I'll take the leap."
It doesn't work that way. Just as Shannon Kaiser said in her blog post, you gotta:
"Let go of thinking you have to know how to make it happen; we learn the way on the way.
It reminds me of that Joseph Campbell quote that I presented a few days ago:
“If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it's not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That's why it's your path.”
We have to trust that God (or the Universe, or Divine Source or whatever you call the Creator) will be faithful to us and take good care of us along the way.
So many times, I think that I know best and I try to bend something or "make it happen" and those situations never turn out good! And, even in that case, who wants "good" when you can have GREAT?
When we can "let go" and really join in on the flow of life, all kinds of synchronicities begin to happen and we enter a kind of magical space that invites beautiful outcomes.
We can also follow our hearts, trust our feelings and go where we feel led. When I focus on what I love to do, what makes my heart sing, what makes time fly, THAT'S when I know that I am following my life purpose. That's when I know that I am BEING who I came here to be.
And that reminds me of another quote that I have leaned into over the past 11 years:
“If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be.”
― Joseph Campbell
Saturday, January 18, 2014
Friday, January 17, 2014
Let Go of Anger Toward Ex-Lovers and Family
"Let go of anger toward ex-lovers and family. We all deserve happiness and love; just because it is over doesn't mean the love was wrong."
Today's suggestion is a weighty one that really involves three distinct subjects:
Anger
Family
Exes
Anger is one of those emotions that can smolder and then erupt when you least expect it. One of my favorite quotes is from Buddha:
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
The best way to deal with anger is to journal. Just write and write and write and get it all out. You can say ANYTHING on paper. Then, burn it. Some people recommend that you write a letter to the offending party and then burn it. Something about putting pen to paper is very cathartic and cleansing.
Yes, we often have grudges against family members. Grudges that aren't dealt with often turn to anger. Sometimes, the issues are years and years in the past and it really wouldn't be helpful to bring it up in the present. That's when writing a letter, discussing the situation with a trusted friend to gain closure or doing some forgiveness work around the situation. Doing any one of these processes is like letting a pressure valve open and seeing the issue dissipate!
Another exercise that I find helpful is journaling all of the good memories around a person. I did this regarding my childhood and made a list of the gifts I received from my parents and was amazed when I filled up 4 pages of a yellow tablet. Often, we have to clear the anger and the bad memories, to allow the good ones to surface! (By gifts, I am referring to things like: taught me to read at a young age, taught me a strong work ethic, taught me how to sew, etc.
This is also good to do with Exes. I remember that my Ex-husband once asked me, "Weren't there any GOOD memories?" Of course, I had to answer that there were! I was just too angry and hurt to see them in that moment. Especially if you share children with an Ex, it's a good idea to make a list of the gifts from that relationship, the happy memories and the wonderful things you shared with your Ex. It just puts things in proper perspective! It also becomes part of the grief work that you do, before entering a new love relationship.
So, let go of anger and claim your JOY!
Today's suggestion is a weighty one that really involves three distinct subjects:
Anger
Family
Exes
Anger is one of those emotions that can smolder and then erupt when you least expect it. One of my favorite quotes is from Buddha:
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
The best way to deal with anger is to journal. Just write and write and write and get it all out. You can say ANYTHING on paper. Then, burn it. Some people recommend that you write a letter to the offending party and then burn it. Something about putting pen to paper is very cathartic and cleansing.
Yes, we often have grudges against family members. Grudges that aren't dealt with often turn to anger. Sometimes, the issues are years and years in the past and it really wouldn't be helpful to bring it up in the present. That's when writing a letter, discussing the situation with a trusted friend to gain closure or doing some forgiveness work around the situation. Doing any one of these processes is like letting a pressure valve open and seeing the issue dissipate!
Another exercise that I find helpful is journaling all of the good memories around a person. I did this regarding my childhood and made a list of the gifts I received from my parents and was amazed when I filled up 4 pages of a yellow tablet. Often, we have to clear the anger and the bad memories, to allow the good ones to surface! (By gifts, I am referring to things like: taught me to read at a young age, taught me a strong work ethic, taught me how to sew, etc.
This is also good to do with Exes. I remember that my Ex-husband once asked me, "Weren't there any GOOD memories?" Of course, I had to answer that there were! I was just too angry and hurt to see them in that moment. Especially if you share children with an Ex, it's a good idea to make a list of the gifts from that relationship, the happy memories and the wonderful things you shared with your Ex. It just puts things in proper perspective! It also becomes part of the grief work that you do, before entering a new love relationship.
So, let go of anger and claim your JOY!
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Letting Go of Thinking You are NOT Where You Should Be
Today’s reminder is:
“Let go of thinking you are not where you should be. You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.”
I love this one! I can’t tell you how many times people ask me “Am I on my path? I feel like I’m not where I’m supposed to be. I feel stuck.”
When we can relax and KNOW that we are in EXACTLY the right place, that’s when we begin to get somewhere! Right?
In other words, relax and enjoy the journey. Just consider, “I’m right where I need to be. Now, where do I want to go?”
Asking questions is one of the best ways to move forward. That’s why I love Access Consciousness tools and processes so much. Access invites you to live in the question.
Now, it may seem silly or weird to ask a question and not answer it, but that’s the beauty of this philosophy. You ARE the question. You ask questions, just as you would do a Google search and your Guides, Your Higher Self and the Universe conspire to bring the answers to you!
The most perfect question in the whole world is “What else is possible?”
I had a situation with a rebate I was due from AT&T. I got an email that invited me to register the rebate and when I went through the steps, it said my rebate was $25. The representative who signed up our account told me that the rebate was $150, so I was initially upset.
However, I kept asking “What else is possible?” (to myself, not to the rep) and after a series of representatives, I learned that the $25 rebate was ANOTHER rebate, in addition to the rebate that I got for signing up!
Now, there are times when “What else is possible?” is a valid question for the representative, hotel clerk, etc. I know a lady who used the question once, when she was told that the hotel had no rooms. She kept asking “What else is possible?” and ended up with the honeymoon suite for the price of her original reservation!
I think it’s about not taking “NO” for an answer and being open to the Universe to gift you with a “YES” that may be even better than what you envision.
And this brings me full circle to our suggestion for today: When you can let go of thinking you are not where you should be and ask questions about where you want to go, the whole Universe opens up to gift you with amazing opportunities, miracles and synchronicities.
So, choose: Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be? What else is possible?
“Let go of thinking you are not where you should be. You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.”
I love this one! I can’t tell you how many times people ask me “Am I on my path? I feel like I’m not where I’m supposed to be. I feel stuck.”
When we can relax and KNOW that we are in EXACTLY the right place, that’s when we begin to get somewhere! Right?
In other words, relax and enjoy the journey. Just consider, “I’m right where I need to be. Now, where do I want to go?”
Asking questions is one of the best ways to move forward. That’s why I love Access Consciousness tools and processes so much. Access invites you to live in the question.
Now, it may seem silly or weird to ask a question and not answer it, but that’s the beauty of this philosophy. You ARE the question. You ask questions, just as you would do a Google search and your Guides, Your Higher Self and the Universe conspire to bring the answers to you!
The most perfect question in the whole world is “What else is possible?”
I had a situation with a rebate I was due from AT&T. I got an email that invited me to register the rebate and when I went through the steps, it said my rebate was $25. The representative who signed up our account told me that the rebate was $150, so I was initially upset.
However, I kept asking “What else is possible?” (to myself, not to the rep) and after a series of representatives, I learned that the $25 rebate was ANOTHER rebate, in addition to the rebate that I got for signing up!
Now, there are times when “What else is possible?” is a valid question for the representative, hotel clerk, etc. I know a lady who used the question once, when she was told that the hotel had no rooms. She kept asking “What else is possible?” and ended up with the honeymoon suite for the price of her original reservation!
I think it’s about not taking “NO” for an answer and being open to the Universe to gift you with a “YES” that may be even better than what you envision.
And this brings me full circle to our suggestion for today: When you can let go of thinking you are not where you should be and ask questions about where you want to go, the whole Universe opens up to gift you with amazing opportunities, miracles and synchronicities.
So, choose: Where do you want to go? Who do you want to be? What else is possible?
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Letting Go of Cheating on Your Future with Your Past
Today's suggestion really rings true to me, because it is so easy to get "lost" in your past and miss the present. But I hadn't considered that you are also robbing yourself of your future!
The full concept:
"Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It's time to move on and tell a new story."
I can't even begin to tell you how much this resonates for me. I came to terms with the abuse I suffered in childhood in my 40's and began telling anyone who would listen. Oh, it was easy, because I was in counseling for quite a few years. Then, I began taking classes in healing, training in different energy clearing modalities and it just came with the territory.
Today, I realize what I am doing: cheating on my present AND my future. So, it stops today! No more old story.
Thank you, Guides and Angels for this 2 by 4 to the brain! I get it!
Today, I tell a new story: one of courage, healing, new intentions and positive choices. Today, I begin to live!
The full concept:
"Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It's time to move on and tell a new story."
I can't even begin to tell you how much this resonates for me. I came to terms with the abuse I suffered in childhood in my 40's and began telling anyone who would listen. Oh, it was easy, because I was in counseling for quite a few years. Then, I began taking classes in healing, training in different energy clearing modalities and it just came with the territory.
Today, I realize what I am doing: cheating on my present AND my future. So, it stops today! No more old story.
Thank you, Guides and Angels for this 2 by 4 to the brain! I get it!
Today, I tell a new story: one of courage, healing, new intentions and positive choices. Today, I begin to live!
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Letting Go of Thinking There's a Right and a Wrong Way to Do Things . . .
Today's guidance for letting go is:
"Let go of thinking there's a right and wrong way to do things or to see the world. Enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life."
You know, I grew up thinking that the world was pretty black and white. There was a right way to do something and a wrong way. There was a right side of the law and a wrong side. There was a right way to navigate life and a wrong way.
I'm learning that life is not really right or wrong. That, often when I've been told I am "wrong" it means that in the eyes of that person, I am simply different.
How many times do we see this play out in wars that are really about religious, political or philosophical differences? What about the rights for gay people to marry? There are so many arguments on this topic, because some people consider the gay lifestyle "right" and others think that the lifestyle is "wrong."
However, life is never that cut and dried, is it? Life is all about shades of gray, forever transforming and never ending up exactly white or black.
I remember once when teaching one of my daughters how to cook, I was teaching her in the same way I had been taught. When she said that she wanted to do things a different way, I stopped for a moment and then said, "Well, let's try that!" Guess what? The recipe turned out even better! Because I refused to press on her MY way, which I momentarily considered the RIGHT way, I learned a valuable lesson. I went on to use this technique with employees, friends, and other people. Each time, I learned something new!
The second part of the suggestion is also compelling. Because if we force our views or ways of doing things on others, then we end up with a very stilted view of life, don't we? When we "enjoy the contrast" or the different way of looking at things, we can look forward to a rich experience.
I also love the word DIVERSITY, although I feel it's been overused and misused in the last 20 years or so. Diversity to me means being open to new experiences with new cultures, new foods and new celebrations and rituals. For example, I eat very differently than my parents do. I enjoy oriental foods, vegan options and seafood. I had never had Eggs Benedict until I graduated college and moved to the Dallas area. I LOVE IT! Yet, I had to take a risk and try it, to learn that I like eggs with Holandaise sauce.
Eating is certainly one of the easier areas to experiment. What about your personal philosophies? Your spiritual or religious beliefs? Well, if I hadn't suspended judgment to go with my husband to our first mediumship gallery, I wouldn't be on the journey I am on today.
There are some people who consider that spirit communication is "wrong." Yet, I see how much messages from friends and loved ones in spirit help people who are grieving. I think that the Christian Church and Catholicism has made the subject taboo to keep mankind under their control. The more I study the subjects of spiritualism, the more I feel this is true.
Yet, I am not making my beliefs "right." These are just my beliefs. So, I intend to "enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life!"
"Let go of thinking there's a right and wrong way to do things or to see the world. Enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life."
You know, I grew up thinking that the world was pretty black and white. There was a right way to do something and a wrong way. There was a right side of the law and a wrong side. There was a right way to navigate life and a wrong way.
I'm learning that life is not really right or wrong. That, often when I've been told I am "wrong" it means that in the eyes of that person, I am simply different.
How many times do we see this play out in wars that are really about religious, political or philosophical differences? What about the rights for gay people to marry? There are so many arguments on this topic, because some people consider the gay lifestyle "right" and others think that the lifestyle is "wrong."
However, life is never that cut and dried, is it? Life is all about shades of gray, forever transforming and never ending up exactly white or black.
I remember once when teaching one of my daughters how to cook, I was teaching her in the same way I had been taught. When she said that she wanted to do things a different way, I stopped for a moment and then said, "Well, let's try that!" Guess what? The recipe turned out even better! Because I refused to press on her MY way, which I momentarily considered the RIGHT way, I learned a valuable lesson. I went on to use this technique with employees, friends, and other people. Each time, I learned something new!
The second part of the suggestion is also compelling. Because if we force our views or ways of doing things on others, then we end up with a very stilted view of life, don't we? When we "enjoy the contrast" or the different way of looking at things, we can look forward to a rich experience.
I also love the word DIVERSITY, although I feel it's been overused and misused in the last 20 years or so. Diversity to me means being open to new experiences with new cultures, new foods and new celebrations and rituals. For example, I eat very differently than my parents do. I enjoy oriental foods, vegan options and seafood. I had never had Eggs Benedict until I graduated college and moved to the Dallas area. I LOVE IT! Yet, I had to take a risk and try it, to learn that I like eggs with Holandaise sauce.
Eating is certainly one of the easier areas to experiment. What about your personal philosophies? Your spiritual or religious beliefs? Well, if I hadn't suspended judgment to go with my husband to our first mediumship gallery, I wouldn't be on the journey I am on today.
There are some people who consider that spirit communication is "wrong." Yet, I see how much messages from friends and loved ones in spirit help people who are grieving. I think that the Christian Church and Catholicism has made the subject taboo to keep mankind under their control. The more I study the subjects of spiritualism, the more I feel this is true.
Yet, I am not making my beliefs "right." These are just my beliefs. So, I intend to "enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life!"
Monday, January 13, 2014
Letting Go of Thinking Everyone Else is Happier . . .
Today's suggestion from our list of things to "let go" is a biggie:
"Let go of thinking everyone else is happier, more successful or better off than you. You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you."
Don't you sometimes get sucked into that? Looking at Facebook, and you see the new car, smart kids and new wardrobe of some of your friends? What about those who are going on fun trips or celebrating birthdays in exotic places? Does it make you green with envy? Lead you to question: What about me? How am I doing?
Well, the message in today's suggestion is a powerful one:
"You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you."
I began following Esther and Jerry Hicks and their Guides, also known as Abraham in 1995. I have memorized one of their affirmations:
"Right now there are many people who are enjoying the dream that is coming for me. There is nothing amiss. I am right on track and gravitating to something that will satisfy me even more."
Whenever I get caught up in someone else's posts or emails or personal sharing sessions over lunch, I just remind myself of this affirmation and the truth in those words. I then turn to gratitude for my beautiful family, my clients, my home, my pets, etc.
Because, my path is MY PATH. I am learning patience and tolerance and balance and grace on this earthly journey. I planned before I came down for this life to have these lessons, to enjoy the challenges of this life. And then I get lost in gratitude for the beautiful life I am creating, in this moment.
And I am content.
Today's thought also reminds me of an old saying that I once saw on a sign in an antique shop:
Our successes and failures are like clothes on a line.
At the end of the day,
You take what's yours and I take mine.
So, the next time the "grass is greener on the other side" pops up in your mind, just remember: You are right where you need to be!
And, as you express gratitude for everything in your life, feel the expansion of the beauty, grace and abundance in all areas of your life.
"Let go of thinking everyone else is happier, more successful or better off than you. You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you."
Don't you sometimes get sucked into that? Looking at Facebook, and you see the new car, smart kids and new wardrobe of some of your friends? What about those who are going on fun trips or celebrating birthdays in exotic places? Does it make you green with envy? Lead you to question: What about me? How am I doing?
Well, the message in today's suggestion is a powerful one:
"You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you."
I began following Esther and Jerry Hicks and their Guides, also known as Abraham in 1995. I have memorized one of their affirmations:
"Right now there are many people who are enjoying the dream that is coming for me. There is nothing amiss. I am right on track and gravitating to something that will satisfy me even more."
Whenever I get caught up in someone else's posts or emails or personal sharing sessions over lunch, I just remind myself of this affirmation and the truth in those words. I then turn to gratitude for my beautiful family, my clients, my home, my pets, etc.
Because, my path is MY PATH. I am learning patience and tolerance and balance and grace on this earthly journey. I planned before I came down for this life to have these lessons, to enjoy the challenges of this life. And then I get lost in gratitude for the beautiful life I am creating, in this moment.
And I am content.
Today's thought also reminds me of an old saying that I once saw on a sign in an antique shop:
Our successes and failures are like clothes on a line.
At the end of the day,
You take what's yours and I take mine.
So, the next time the "grass is greener on the other side" pops up in your mind, just remember: You are right where you need to be!
And, as you express gratitude for everything in your life, feel the expansion of the beauty, grace and abundance in all areas of your life.
Sunday, January 12, 2014
Letting Go of Being the "Go-To-Person" for Everyone, All the Time!
(Yes, two blogs today, to make up for missing yesterday!)
Oh, my, is this one a BIGGIE for me:
"Let go of being the 'go-to-person' for everyone, all the time; stop blowing yourself off and take care of yourself first . . . because you matter."
Yes, this is for me. There is a part of me that believes that I have to have all of the answers and share information and tips and healing for everyone else. (I have some friends who nicknamed me "Wikipedia" for Heaven's sake!)
And, yet, this can be simply EXHAUSTING!!! Having to always be "ON" and having to always dispense guidance or information or send healing energy ALL OF THE TIME is just too much!
Over the past year, I have toned it down. Over the past year, I have learned when I need to take better care of myself and when I need to rest or take a day to relax. I have some new energy tools that help me better manage my personal energy, cut cords with people and recharge myself. I also take more time to meditate and journal. I'm also getting better at saying "NO".
A wise counselor once told me that sometimes you have to say "no" to someone else, so you can say "yes" to yourself. So true!
Like today. Initially, my hubby was scheduled to be working all day, so I scheduled a class to teach. As the time drew closer, I felt less and less like teaching. I felt that I needed a day to relax and chill. So, I rescheduled the class.
I'm going to a movie with my daughter and then I'm stopping at my favorite grocery store for some special treats and cooking a great dinner for my hubby.
I'm beginning to LOVE taking better care of myself . . . because I'm beginning to believe that I DO matter.
Oh, my, is this one a BIGGIE for me:
"Let go of being the 'go-to-person' for everyone, all the time; stop blowing yourself off and take care of yourself first . . . because you matter."
Yes, this is for me. There is a part of me that believes that I have to have all of the answers and share information and tips and healing for everyone else. (I have some friends who nicknamed me "Wikipedia" for Heaven's sake!)
And, yet, this can be simply EXHAUSTING!!! Having to always be "ON" and having to always dispense guidance or information or send healing energy ALL OF THE TIME is just too much!
Over the past year, I have toned it down. Over the past year, I have learned when I need to take better care of myself and when I need to rest or take a day to relax. I have some new energy tools that help me better manage my personal energy, cut cords with people and recharge myself. I also take more time to meditate and journal. I'm also getting better at saying "NO".
A wise counselor once told me that sometimes you have to say "no" to someone else, so you can say "yes" to yourself. So true!
Like today. Initially, my hubby was scheduled to be working all day, so I scheduled a class to teach. As the time drew closer, I felt less and less like teaching. I felt that I needed a day to relax and chill. So, I rescheduled the class.
I'm going to a movie with my daughter and then I'm stopping at my favorite grocery store for some special treats and cooking a great dinner for my hubby.
I'm beginning to LOVE taking better care of myself . . . because I'm beginning to believe that I DO matter.
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