Saturday, December 18, 2010

How Do You Know - Fun Movie with a Message

Steve and I saw "How Do You Know" last night. I am such a lucky girl, with a husband who loves ALL KINDS of movies. This one was really fun and packed with messages around every corner. It's all about asking "how do you know" about a certain girl or guy, what to do in certain situations (like when you are about to be indicted by the Fed. Gov) and about some people's motives in life.

My favorite line was when Lisa (Reese Witherspoon) goes to see a psychiatrist and she asks if there is just something "general" he can tell her to help her. He says this:

"You need to figure out what it is you want and learn how to ask for it."

(The psychiatrist was played by Tony Shalhoub, who also plays Monk on the TV show of the same name. Kind of a twist to allow Tony to play the psychiatrist and very fun!)

Although this is a "rom com" (romantic comedy - learned that term from Carrie Fisher and her one-woman show the other night) this is a very heavy line . . . so, let me repeat it . . .

"You need to figure out what it is you want and learn how to ask for it."

This is what I've been struggling with MY ENTIRE LIFE!!!

A lot of us have baggage that prevents us from even KNOWING what we really want. Once you get clear on that, we have to work on the courage to ask for it!

Courage is a funny word. I think I always thought it meant being fearless. But, I've come to know that there really is no such thing as "fear-less." Fear is always going to come up, especially when we are encountering our "stuff" that needs to be cleared. The question is usually, "do I trust enough to let this stuff go and move on to a higher level of living?"

How do you know when it's OK to just let go?