Friday, February 22, 2019

Will the "True" PJ Spur Please Stand Up!

I opened my Birch Box this morning and before I threw the big box away, something caught my eye. It was addressed to:

The True PJ Spur

How cool!

The “True” PJ Spur. That is so affirming. Then, I began to ask myself, “Who IS the “True” PJ?

Is she the little girl who loved to play outdoors in the backyard with her sisters?

Is she the pre-teen who skateboarded to her grandmother’s house and back with a casserole or something from that wonderful kitchen?

Is she the young business woman who was blazing trails in Corporate America in the ‘70’s?

Is she the young mom with two kids, balancing home, work and Sunday School teaching duties?

Is she the woman who blinks and finds herself with grand daughters and the title of “Mimi”?

Yes, I am all of these and so much more.

This is the “True” PJ Spur, reporting for duty on Planet Earth . . .

Thursday, September 27, 2018

Past Lives In India - Do You Have One?

On Sunday, I attended a play called "The Red Pashmina." It was an interesting study in past lives, reincarnation and how two soul mates meet again and again over time.

It began with a hypnotist bringing a young man out of a regression, as he sputtered and gasped for air. His past life included being thrown overboard at sea!

The play went on and on, through the ages in India. These two souls, one female and one male, kept meeting and then being separated by circumstances or other people. It was truly harrowing to watch.

When the hypnotist brought in a female client, I began to see what might be happening. Yes, her memories were similar to his memories and when a name was similar, the hypnotist had a wonderful idea.

The main theme of the play represented that we are bound to repeat old patterns until we become aware of them and make conscious change.

The dancing and costumes were so fun. I really enjoyed the play and the lesson it also taught in a very gentle and compassionate way.

Although I have seen 16 of my past lives, I have never seen one set in India. Perhaps I need to investigate this corner of the world and see what treasure awaits me.

I love facilitating past life regressions and life between life journeys. For more info, visit

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Compassion for Myself

Over the past few months, I’ve been reading Talk to Yourself like a Buddhist, by Cynthia Kane.

This book is available on Amazon:

I love books like this, because not only do you get the author’s knowledge and experience in the subject matter, you also get exercises to ground what you learn and give you tools for growth.

The chapter on the Practice of Listening really spoke to me. Do you really listen when you hear those words you say to yourself, over and over? What themes are you reprising?

For example, here is a list of themes that you might be featuring and one negative statement for each:

I am unloveable.

Physical Appearance
I am ugly

She is more successful than I am

Personal Development
I meditate daily, but I still get angry in traffic!

So, to quote Cynthia Kane, “Fire the Drill Sargent and Hire the Cheerleader!” Every time you “hear” a negative admonition, replace it with something positive.

Although I am a long way from totally eliminating negative self-talk, I AM listening and I AM catching myself more and more. When I bring in the Cheerleader and high five myself, the days go better!

Send compassion to yourself, as well as others!

Monday, August 13, 2018

Mindfulness & Meditation Retreat - Retreat in the Pines

My daughters and I spent the weekend at a beautiful retreat center in East Texas: Retreat in the Pines.

We ate delicious, healthy, locally grown food, enjoyed meditation and yoga practices in a variety of settings, learned new ways to slow down and unplug and met new Soul Companions.

Our drive from the Dallas/Fort Worth area was about two hours. As we drove further and further, the landscape became greener and greener, with tall pines, sycamores and live oaks reaching to the sky. We treated ourselves by stopping at the Dairy Palace in Canton and I had the BEST peach ice cream I’ve ever eaten!

Along side Blue Bell, the Dairy Palace also offered Henry’s Homemade Ice cream and every bit of my peach ice cream included little bits of fresh peaches. Yummy!
A few miles further, we were directed off of the main road and saw the sign for The Waldo Way Dairy Farm. We passed beautiful, fawn and white colored Guernsey cows, gently grazing on both sides of the road. This farm boasts yogurt, milk and butter. Maybe the next time we visit East Texas, we can stop in! Here is their website for more info:

Theresa Polley has created the perfect retreat center, with everything that today’s woman needs to relax, recharge and re-energize her life. The modern cedar Main House has a full kitchen, community room, three bedrooms and 2 full baths. My daughters and I shared a bedroom with 3 twin beds, which was perfect for us. A large closet, night stands, lots of electrical plugs and nice bedding were available. Theresa even provided ear plugs! The bathroom offered nice towels, body wash and other niceties for our visit. Two bathrooms meant there was rarely a time when you couldn’t get into one! If it happened, there was a bathroom in the Dining Hall, one in the Yoga Studio and another one in the Guest Quarters.

The kitchen in the Main House was stocked with coffee, an assortment of teas and everything we needed to serve ourselves. A large refrigerator meant we could keep our waters, wine and other beverages cold.

The Dining Hall featured long wooden tables, put together in a U-shape that fostered lots of conversation and sharing. All meals were served buffet-style on a counter near the Staff Kitchen door.

A sweet woman named Sandy prepared all of our meals from scratch: nothing canned, microwaved or pre-prepared at Retreat in the Pines! Great veggies, homemade hummus, delicious fruit trays, fresh baked breads and whole grain chips and crackers. The food was truly amazing. Lots of dried fruits and nuts for snacks and delicious high-quality chocolates, also.

And wine! Did I mention that their slogan is “Yoga, Wine and Laughter”? Theresa puts out several nice white and red wines each evening. Guests are also encouraged to bring their own favorite wines. And, if you forgot to BYOB, there are several nice wineries within driving distance of the retreat grounds. In fact, there are 19 wineries on the Piney Woods Wine Trail that covers the area all around the Retreat center.

For all meals and snack occasions, nice glassware is used, in keeping with Theresa’s eco-friendly philosophy. In fact, we ate on nice plateware, had cloth napkins, glass drinking glasses and glass coffee mugs. Everything that isn’t recycled is added to the compost pile, with only a small amount of trash left over each day.
Theresa grows herbs on site and sources the chicken, vegetables and fruit locally, as much as possible. Someone on her staff bakes all of the breads they serve. There are quite a few gluten free options, also.

I have been enjoying a modified vegetarian-style eating plan and I found a lot of options at every meal. The Sunday Gratitude Brunch was my favorite meal. Lots of creamy eggs, with cheese and guacamole to add. Fresh fruits, homemade coffeecake and two pots of coffee were never empty!

And massage! We scheduled massages with Jan Hauk of Galveston, who drives up for the weekend retreats. She was WONDERFUL!!! My daughter also enjoyed her massage with another practitioner.

We chose the Mindfulness & Meditation Retreat with Michelle Brazell, who has been practicing yoga since 2008 and teaching since 2011. Michelle has the most soothing voice and led us on some amazing meditation journeys. The Lovingkindness Meditation was my favorite. My daughter really enjoyed the combination Restorative Yoga with Letting Go Guided Meditation.

I really enjoyed the free time to wander all over the property, go on long walks and journal on the screened in porch or front porch swing. One of my daughters and I walked the tiny road that led to the gate and main road, seeing lots of beautiful vegetation, a campfire ring and lots and lots of the tallest trees I’ve ever seen. We had rain several times, but most was gentle sprinkles or light rain that we didn’t mind walking through. Very peaceful and calming.

We also had a chance to make some DIY aromatherapy sprays with their collection of essential oils and great recipes. Some of the ladies colored mandalas or affirmation papers and enjoyed a little break or some conversation with other retreat attendees. Afterwards, we enjoyed driving into the small town that was nearby to do a little shopping.

My favorite part of the weekend was getting to spend time with my daughters. We laughed and told stories on the two hour drive. We did card readings in the evenings and encouraged each other in the yoga practice sessions. We shared 5 meals together, took walks, stood on one leg in “tree pose,” shared our gratitude statements at the group dinner. It was truly amazing.

Thank you Theresa, Michelle and Sandy for a remarkable experience. We are already planning our next retreat with you at Retreat in the Pines. PJ Spur

Thursday, March 24, 2016

Highlights from My New Book: Navigating Grief with Grace

On Tuesday, my friend Michelle Welch interviewed me on her A1R Psychic Radio Show and I shared a little about my new book, Navigating Grief with Grace. Here are my talking points:

1. What inspired you to write a book on grief?

I lost all 4 of my grandparents in a four year period in the late 60’s & early 70’s. My family is not really into feeling feelings or talking about feelings. We lost someone, had a funeral and got on with work and life. That was that!

When I was a Senior in High School, I did my Sr. paper on the American Way of Death, a book by Jessica Mitford, which is an expose and an exploration of the American funeral industry. I was fascinated by death and what happens when we die and had lots of questions that my family and church couldn’t answer. I also had a lot of feelings around the loss of my grandparents that no one helped me feel, process, heal and release. I even went to counseling for a short time in college, trying to deal with all of my feelings.

Then, as so often happens, I got busy with graduating from college, getting married and then divorced and then getting married again and having two daughters.

Fast forward to 2000, when I met my husband Steve and he told me that he heard voices and saw spirits. We began an adventure in studying mediumship and learning how to communicate with those on the other side. As we began to work with grieving people, the need for tools to help people grieve and heal became apparent. In 2008, I wrote an E-book on grief and led several workshops for grieving people. In 2015, I was led to update the book and publish it.

2. What is your best recommendation for the person who feels they will never turn the corner with the grief they are experiencing?
To allow yourself to feel what you feel, whatever you feel, for as long as you want to feel. No time limit is especially important. Someone put out the idea that it takes a year. On some levels that makes sense. Yes, it helps to go through birthdays, holidays, the death anniversary date and feel, process, heal and release your feelings. But, there is nothing set in stone about one year. I talked to a lady yesterday who is still in heavy grief over her mother’s death, which happened almost 4 years ago.

Remembering that there is no timetable seems to help a lot of people. Giving yourself permission to grieve is also important. We tend to be hardest on ourselves! So, give yourself the space to grieve. Also, give yourself the support system to grieve. If that is family, great. If your family is NOT the best support system, admit that to yourself and find a group. There are a number of groups, whether you have lost a child or a spouse or a pet.

You might also benefit from a support friend. I call this an accountability buddy. Or a spirit buddy or pal. There may be someone in your life right now who can fill that role for you. There may not be. That’s when groups like our Soul Compass Community or The Now Center or SoulTopia Classes can be so helpful. You go to these events with what I call “like-hearted friends” and you can find a friend or friends with whom you can share your grief, and feel, process, heal and release your feelings.

Now, with that as a base: 1.Giving yourself permission. 2.No timetable 3.Support person or group, you can use some of the tools in my book to support you on your grief journey.

3. Will you tell us a little about EFT and how it works?
EFT is an amazing modality that I found in 1999, after a breakup, when I was dealing with grief in a BIG way. You see, I had NEVER grieved for the losses of my grandparents, including my beloved Granny. Then, I never grieved the loss of my first marriage. Then, I never grieved the loss of my second marriage. When the guy I had dated for 3 years dumped me around the time of my birthday in November 1999, I cratered!!! I found a counselor on-line and did sessions with him and learned EFT.

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It makes use of the body’s electrical pathways, also called meridians in Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture. The Chinese believe that everything we feel or witness, everything that is done to us or everything we do, is held in the body, along electrical pathways called Meridians. If your heart stops, the medical staff will use a defibulator to revive you, right? You may also know how an acupuncturist places small needles in the body to release blockages in your chi or prana or energy system? Well, you can use your fingers to tap and release energy blockages, also. EFT is also called Meridian Tapping or just “Tapping.”

By tapping on 10 different points on the face, torso and wrist, you can clear energy from 14 meridians. Each of these meridians represents an organ or organs and an emotion or emotions. It’s really very interesting and amazing. (Email me for directions)

I love EFT for its simplicity and effectiveness.

I have an audio on my website, just click “Grief” and find 4 different audios that support the tools in my book. One will take you through EFT, one is a meditation where you can meet one of your guides or angels and one is a meditation that helps with grief. The last audio is a basic meditation.

My website is:

4. What other tools do you recommend for grief?
In my book, you will also see a reference to meditation, writing letters to your friend or loved one who has passed, journaling and a few other tools, such as The Quick Coherence Technique from Heart Math.

5. What oils and crystals do you recommend for someone experiencing a "loss" of a loved one?
Well, I learned a lot about crystals for grief from you!!! (My friend and mentor, Michelle Welch of You really helped me when I lost my Uncle last August and I’ve since shared that recipe with lots of people. I think you start with Yellow or Honey Calcite, which also relates to the Archangel Azrael, the Angel of Grief. You have those wonderful bracelets made of yellow calcite and I find bracelets are one of the easiest ways to “arm” ourselves with crystals. Pun intended! Then, the recipe you shared with me that day is:

Yellow Calcite
Apache Tear
Smokey Quartz
Rose Quartz
Clear Quartz

You put those crystals in a small organza bag and I carried them with me in my purse for the entire day that I traveled to and from the funeral service in West Texas. I continued to wear my bracelets and carry the crystals for a week or two, as I continued to feel my feelings and grieve. Then, I carried a piece of yellow calcite and apache tear in my pocket for a few more weeks. I love the way you can carry crystals with you in pockets or purse or wear jewelry, such as bracelets or pendants or beaded necklaces.

I also talk about specific crystals for each of the symptoms of grief in my book. You may be dealing with:
-Disbelief and Shock
-Sadness - depression
-Lack of Trust
-Physical Symptoms: insomnia, pain,
-Acceptance and Moving on

Essential Oils have also helped me with my grief journey and so I included them in my book, as well. I have a favorite recipe called Liquid Xanax, which I really love. I carry it with me daily and apply it 4 to 10 times a day, depending upon what is going on. That recipe is in my book or you can Google it and find it easily. I apply to the underside of my wrists, the "pulse points." Also, I inhale deeply 3X whenever I apply an essential oil. That sends the oils directly into the olefactory system and into the brain in just seconds. Within 20 minutes, the oils penetrate every cell in your body from the topical application. You can also diffuse essential oils in a water-based diffuser. There are lots of ways to utilize essential oils for physical and emotional symptoms.

In my book, I also share specific essential oils for each grief symptom, in case you don’t have access to doTERRA or Young Living essential oils and the great blends that they carry.

For example, Lavender is a great essential oil for calming and for support. Neroli is another one that is great for grief. Bergamot is another one. Did you know that Bergamot is what they put in tea to make it Earl Gray Tea?

You can see my book for at least one crystal and one essential oil for each symptom of grief and some general recommendations, as well.

5. Are all types of grief treated the same way?
Just as there are different and unique people, there are different types of grief. That’s why I give lots of different tools for the different symptoms and different passages of grief.

6. I know you are a past life regressionist, can that be beneficial for grief?

Sometimes. Of course, I believe that the key people in my life are also soul mates. I don’t believe that we have just one Soul Mate and that’s a whole other discussion!

When we lose a friend or loved one who is really close, we may feel that Soul-to-Soul connection more deeply. Many times, by reviewing a past life, whether in a regression or a reading, you can get a clue or key to why that person’s departure may be so grievous. In learning this information, getting that key can be very healing. However, I want to point out that in 10 years of facilitating past life regressions, I have never recommended this. It’s a very personal decision to visit your past lives and a person’s Higher Self or angels and guides will always nudge them to do so, when it will be beneficial. It is my belief that it is best to wait for this nudge and then facilitate the journey.

7. How can listeners get your book?

My book is available on Amazon as a paperback and Kindle and at places in DFW, such as SoulTopia, the Now Center’s Holistic Boutique and Holistic Connections in Waxahachie.

The book is Navigating Grief with Grace . . .

8. And how can they get in touch with you?
Easiest way is my website: or just Google: PJ Spur

If you have any questions about what I’ve shared or about my book, please contact me!

To get more information on A1R Psychic Radio and Michelle Welch's Show, visit:

Friday, December 25, 2015

On the 12th Day of Christmas, My Soul Self Gave to Me Yoga Classes

When we lived in Coppell 7 years ago, we went to a local yoga studio twice a week. I didn’t really “get into it.” I was still figuring out my best meditation style and had a lot going on with work and building a practice in past life regression. To say I didn’t give yoga a fair shake is putting it mildly.

I’m ready now. I want to learn more about yoga and how I can integrate it into my life, into a practice that is truly a part of my spiritual journey.

My dear friend Arthur Graye told me about how he got into yoga:

“I was led to yoga when I was 18 because I was drawn to the idea of merging the physical body with the energy which inhabits it. Everything is so separate in our common society. I liked the fact that there was a clear path of physical action that could lead to the knowing of ourselves on an energetic level and thereby granting us access to spiritual enlightenment. It changed my life. And then when j discovered the branch of mantra, it changed it again.”

Arthur is a Yoga teacher, Reiki Master and wears many other hats as a spiritual leader in our community. His explanation of the various aspects of yoga is one of the best I’ve seen and I have his permission to share it:

“In my classes, we start off with Mantra Meditation. We recite the Gayatri Mantra or the Mahamitrunjaya Mantra while using a strand of prayer beads , otherwise known as a Japa Mala. By participating in Mantra Meditation, we raise our awareness and create an inner sacred space that allows us to be fully present for our practice on the mat. The Japa Malas are useful tools in keeping count of the number of repetitions for the Mantra. This meditation is an excellent way to clear your head and raise your vibration. It sets the mood for the practice and is a valuable tool in connecting to the Divine.
Pranayama is also a major part of Tantra Yoga. In my classes, you can expect to be presented with the opportunity to learn many different breathing techniques. There are breathing techniques for calming, energizing, balancing, etc. The breath is one of (if not the absolute) most important things we do. Without air, we could not live. Breathing is the first thing we do when we are born and the last thing we do before we pass on to our next plane of existence. Some say that the breath is the bridge from the physical to the spiritual. I believe this wholeheartedly. Breathwork is the quickest way to gain control over your emotions and mental processes.
The third component of my classes is Asana. This is what we, as Americans, recognize as yoga. This is the physical work of Yoga. Postures such as Downward Dog, Warrior, Cobra, Childs Pose and MANY more are used to enhance the strength and flexibility of your physical body. Remember, that the entire goal of yoga is to gain access to the control panel of your mind. The physical work is a very important component of this goal. By keeping our body in a fit condition, it will allow us the range of motion to sit in meditative positions for longer and longer periods of time. The fact that we will become more and more comfortable in our bodies and in our daily lives is a very big added bonus.
Many yoga classes today concentrate on getting you in the class, getting you warmed up, wearing out your physical body and then sending you on your way. This is EXACTLY what I try to avoid in my classes. After the Asana (physical postures) is completed, I always lead my students through a ten to fifteen minute Savasan.”

If you live in the Lewisville, TX area, I invite you to check out Arthur and his weekly yoga classes at Miracles of Joy.

What I like best about Arthur’s approach is, as he says in his own words, “Tantra meets you where you are.” With Tantra’s all-encompassing approach to yoga, the postures, breathing exercises, meditations and/or chanting work with your own life force to alter your energy for your own personal needs. He teaches different classes on grounding, relaxation, detoxification and inspiration.

How can yoga benefit me? Well, I wanted to find out what the medical community might have to say about yoga. I found an interesting article by the American Osteopathic Association:

Benefits of Yoga

“The relaxation techniques incorporated in yoga can lessen chronic pain, such as lower back pain, arthritis, headaches and carpal tunnel syndrome,” explains Dr. Natalie Nevins. “Yoga can also lower blood pressure and reduce insomnia.”

According to Dr. Nevins, other physical benefits include:
-Increased flexibility
-Increased muscle strength and tone
-Improved respiration, energy and vitality
-The maintenance of a balanced metabolism
-Weight reduction
-Cardio and circulatory health
-Improved athletic performance
-Protection from injury

Aside from the array of physical benefits, one of the best benefits of yoga is how it helps a person manage stress, which has been known to have devastating effects on the body and mind. “Stress can reveal itself in many ways, including back or neck pain, sleeping problems, headaches, drug abuse, and an inability to concentrate,” says Dr. Nevins. “Yoga can be very effective in developing coping skills and reaching a more positive outlook on life.”

Yep, gonna find a yoga class and get started . . . Happy Holidays and Happy New Year, y’all!

Thursday, December 24, 2015

On the 11th Day of Christmas, My Soul Self Gave to Me Access Consciousness Tools

Over the past 20 years, I have adopted many different energy clearing tools. In fact, when I learned EFT back in 1999, I didn’t even know what an “energy clearing tool” was!

My favorite collection of tools this year is from Access Consciousness. I’ve been using The Access Clearing Statement and several other tools from their collection after learning them from a coach I worked with in 2011. Later, I took the Bars Foundation Class with Dr. Sue Hegel in 2012.

My favorite tool is asking “Who does this belong to?” As an empath (someone who feels the feelings and picks up on the thoughts of other people) I can be easily bombarded when I go to Wal-Mart, a mall, a large office building or any group setting with a large number of people.
I can also become overwhelmed when the people around me are sad, angry, mad or depressed. Access Consciousness advises that 98% of my thoughts and feelings are NOT mine. If this is true, it’s important to have an easy tool to release these from my energy body.

Here are the steps to “Who Does This Belong To?”
1. Notice what you are feeling. Sad? Angry? Depressed? Panic? (a biggie on airplanes!)
2. Ask: Who does this belong to? OR Is this mine?
3. Say: Return to Sender, Consciousness Attached OR Return to Sender, with Love
4. Notice what you are feeling. If you feel lighter, then the feeling WAS NOT yours

If you still feel some of the feeling, it may be yours and you may want to use the Access Clearing Statement to clear that feeling.

Access Clearing Statement

Anytime you would like to change something, whether that something is a belief, a restriction, a feeling or whatever, just destroy and uncreate the old belief, restriction, feeling or whatever.

How do you do this? By using the really wacky Access Clearing Statement, which works to confuse the brain long enough for the energy body to clear the old belief or whatever it is that has you feeling stuck in that moment. The statement is:

“Will you destroy and uncreate everything that is times a godzillion? Yes, please. Right, wrong, good, bad, POD, POC, all 9, shorts, boys and beyonds."

A recent statement that the Access Consciousness folks created that has really helped me is this one:
"What stupidity am I using to create the lack of receiving I am choosing? Everything that is times a godzillion, do I choose to uncreate and destroy it all? Yes, please! Right, wrong, good, bad, POD, POC, all 9, shorts, boys and beyonds."

The second part of the Clearing Statement are shortcut words for a process that the Access Consciousness Founder Gary Douglas channeled from his Guides back in 1990. If you want to learn more about the entire process. Please click the link below for the Access Consciousness website.

In 2000, Dr. Dain Heer, a chiropractor in Santa Barbara joined Gary and the two of them began taking the Access Consciousness principles around the world. Dr. Dain has a YouTube channel with weekly updates and Google Hangouts that help you clear what’s bugging you. One of my all time favorites is his holiday broadcast from last year, which you can still catch:

Dr. Dain's messages are always light-hearted, therapeutic and very supportive for your spiritual journey. I love his candor and the way he navigates his life, as well as all of the tools he shares.

If you are in the DFW area, Dr. Sue Hegel is your “go to source” for all classes and sessions in Bars and Access Consciousness. Tell her PJ sent you:

For more information on how this process works, please visit the Access Consciousness website:

In the words of Gary Douglas, “What would it be like to live your life from infinite possibilities and choice?”

What else is possible?

How does it get any better than that?